Having someone to spend your life with is one of the best gifts anyone could ever receive. Like so many things in life - career, health, finances or even a plant - relationship needs nourishing and sometimes, sacrifices. Here are some thoughts I'd like to share with you about this beautiful thing called {romantic} love.
1. Reserve your best attitude towards your special someone. If you are extra nice to other people but are rude to your partner, something is amiss. Did it ever occur to you that he cares for you more than anyone else and so therefore he deserves your best words?
2. Communication is essential. I have one brother, a dad, have worked with colleagues and dated a specific type of human beings called males. My conclusion: they are not mind readers! I always say this but the closest route from point A to B is a straight line. Obviously, you voice and body language plays a big part of the whole repertoire so be mindful of that.
3. Do stuff together. Have something to look forward to as a couple. He or she should be one of your favourite people to hang out with because, erm, a lifetime is a long time to tolerate someone you are not happy with. It should be a give and take, of course. A couple of weeks back, I attended a tech event that I'm not sure about but in the end, I really enjoyed it! Just have fun and enjoy each other's company!
4. Balance. On days that you have a rough patch - and there will be those - learn the balance between too close and too far. I usually keep quiet after an argument because I have this annoying habit of crying when I am so upset. It's like my eyes have a mind of its own and I can't help it. Even when I was little, when mommy and daddy tells me off - I cry instantly. With Gab, we make it a habit to say sorry and I love you whenever we can. As cringe-y as it may sound, we'd rather hear those words gently spoken, whenever we get a chance.
5. Diversify. Oh, no no no darling! Not like what you're thinking! Your romantic relationship is just one of the many facets of your amazing life. Do not lose yourself in a relationship. There should be an me-moment and we-moment. Both are equally important. Make a conscious effort to nourish your family, friends and yourself... which leads me to my next point...
6. Have time for yourself. There should be days that is reserved only for you and you alone. Organise a pamper time, shop on your own, have a coffee and cake by yourself. Be silent, so silent that you can hear your mind think. It does wonder - like a refresh button, you'll be ready to spend time again with your other half because you miss each other's company.
7. Know your worth. If respect is no longer being served, you must find the courage to leave the table. End of. Doesn't that sound so bloody empowering? 💁🏻♀️
8. Realise that your partner, like your life, is a borrowed rendezvous. As depressing as it may sound, it's the cold truth. This is my motivation to always show my appreciation to people who matter to me. Not only with Gab but on my every relationship. Can I make him smile today? is a question I always ask myself. It can be as simple as cooking his favourite meal or giving him cute things like a little milk froth cup {he wanted one for so long}. The wonder of it all is when I make him happy, I become happy too. Maybe that's what love is all about? -CMK
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