Wednesday 6 February 2019


Days from now it will be that day again. Yep, Valentine's day. I don't know about you, but way back, Valentine's day is the day when my self-esteem plummets six feet below the ground. No other day does that to me except this so-called hearts day! I remember I always felt so uncomfortable every Valentine's day. It's like an incessant, round-the-clock reminder that I was unhitched, almost unwanted. Society had a way of suggesting that I was missing on something because I didn't have a special someone! Later down the line, I discovered that yes, having a partner is great but there's one relationship that you need to nourish by default... and that's a relationship with yourself. Why, you ask?

Because... you cannot give what you do not have.
Remember the airplane-oxygen-rule. In case of emergency, put your own oxygen mask first before helping others. If you are insecure when you're single, you'll probably carry over those insecurities in a relationship. Likewise, if you are a generally happy person without a partner, chances are you'll infect your other half with your positivity.

Because... relationships can't fix you.
It is not a magic pill that will cure all your woes. To know this beforehand will save you a lot of disappointments. Relationship is about acceptance than anything else.

Because... you are your most constant companion.
Think about it for a moment: Are you kind to yourself? The way you talk to your inner you, do you use nice and gentle words or otherwise? If there's a choice between junk and healthy food, are you considerate enough to give your physical body the nourishment it needs? That even if spirituality is a taboo and our era is obsessed in what the senses can feel, do you step out of your comfort zone and enrich your spiritual and mental well-being? Difficult questions, right?

Because... you need to guard your inner peace.
Inner peace is expensive. The payment can sometimes come in a form of letting go, of accepting an apology that has never been given, of overlooking an offence because you know that what you feel inside of you is more important than these non-issues in the grand scheme of things.

Because... the way you react to situations will always be your choice.
You may not have the power to dictate what events can do to you but what you do in return is definitely at your beck and call. So, going back to the infamous V-day, I suggest you have a spa with your loved ones, go on spring shopping, sign up to that dancing class, maybe try cooking a homemade food that you really crave for or go on a date with your girlfriends.

Whatever you do, take time to appreciate yourself. -CMK

"The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. 
And if you find someone to love the you (that) you love, well that's just fabulous." Carrie Bradshaw


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