Wednesday, 17 May 2017

LESSONS LEARNED ABOUT CHANGES


The writings on my personal journal seem to be more frequent these days and it can only mean one thing: I'm going through some changes. Have you read the best seller Who Moved My Cheese? I suggest you do. The book is so simple (and printed in big fonts, yay!) yet it delivers one great life lesson. We all need to change. The other option is to become extinct. Not all changes are bad but if you're like me, you are not a fan of change. However, this book thought me this:

“What you are afraid of is never as bad as what you imagine. 
The fear you let build up in your mind is worse than the situation that actually exists.”

That's the reason why I don't like changes: I'm afraid. I'm scared because I'm a creature of habit. I wake up same time every working morning, drink coffee, read, go to work, go to the gym then repeat. So when I realised that there will be a couple of significant changes on my life, I don't know how to digest all of it. To bring it closer to home, there are two big changes happening in my life as of press time: I'm starting a new job and am moving flats. In a span of one week. Crazy isn't it?  However, these tiny thoughts allow me to embrace this truth. Changes, like life, is how we make it. It's neutral. The way we respond to it makes all the difference.

Allow yourself to 'grieve'. The word grief has always been associated with death but with changes, it's kind of the same thing isn't it? One thing dies and another will be brought to life. Point is, when you feel sad because things won't be the same again, then feel the sadness. Savour the remaining days and feel the 'feels'. Slowly but surely, let go.

List all your action points into tiny chunks. Moving flats is no joke. And I promise myself I'm going to get a move out service the next time around. It was insane! It's physically demanding. And you have to do it to realise how labour intensive it is. Get all the help you can get. I am so grateful to have Gab and Raymond to help me with otherwise, I don't know where will I be! Create a list (Google Keep is a great tool) and tick off the boxes as you go along.

Get excited. At the end of the day, it's all about perspective. Personally, I explored the nearest gym to my next office place. I also checked where's the nearest coffee shop from my new flat. Things may not be the same as before but without the leap from point A to B, change won't happen and life will be boring.

Stick with your constant. It will help if you'll stick with at least one constant between those changes. One of my many constants is being healthy. I like to make sure that before, during and after the transition I'll stick to me eating healthy and being active. I get giddy when I think about the blueberry and peanut butter snack when I'm peckish. I also explored the web about the closest park from my new office. 

Find your centrifugal force. Be it your friends, partner, parents, God. I definitely found my respite in GOD. I know it sounds cliche but that's where I find my inner peace. It differs from person to person, but for me, when I don't know what to do, I'll just sing this song in my head. It's a song my mum taught me when I was in Kindergarten:

I cast all my care upon You // I lay all of my burdens down at your feet // In anytime that I don't know what to do // I'll just cast all my care upon You. 

After a while, I noticed I'm getting excited rather than fearful on these changes. The boxes on my new flat are slowly being unpacked and I'll be based in Central London very soon. Changes are not too bad after all. -CMK
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